Nov 5, 2012

From Seattleite to Southern Bell

Okay, okay...it's been way too long since I last blogged but it's been one HELL of a month! This post may or may not make any sort of sense. Mostly it's just going to be full of bitching and moaning because nothing has gone smoothly since we started getting ready to leave Washington.

Clearing Fort Lewis was a pain in the butt. For my fellow Army spouses, I'm sure you know the hell that is CIF. For you non-military folks, CIF is the place that issues gear to soldiers. Mike has hundreds of pounds of gear that he's collected throughout his 9 year career in the Army. When we left Fort Drum he was required to scrub oil stains from his Gortex suit, even though it was the old desert print which was no longer used and would never be issued to another soldier. I thought THAT was bad but this time was much worse.  Mike had a couple old brown flight suits that he wore his first tour in Iraq in 2005-2006. They were disgusting when he got back and Fort Drum's CIF didn't ask for them when he cleared so he got rid of them. Guess what JBLM wanted when he cleared? Those damn flight suits. Seriously?! Luckily he found some at a surplus store for $100 (that we had to pay for) so he could get signed off on that. Then there was his sleeping bag that "didn't smell clean" even though he had just washed it. The CIF lady told him that it couldn't be clean because it didn't smell like anything. He explained to her that we didn't use scented laundry soap or fabric softener in our house and he said she looked at him, "Like I had a dick growing out of my forehead." Ha! My husband. He brought that sleeping bag home and doused it with some Febreeze he had found in the glove box. When he took it back to CIF the next day it was a different person and they didn't even try to smell it. ::head desk::

The movers came and packed up our stuff and all along we had planned to have a cleaning team come in so that we didn't have to clean ourselves--I was only five weeks post partum and caring for a newborn and let's face it, men just don't clean as well. For those not familiar with the process of clearing military housing, it's pretty tedious. Window tracks, refrigerator seals, baseboards, you name it. It's a LOT of work. Weeeelll, we met the cleaning lady, she looked at our house, gave us a quote and told us she'd see us on moving day. Guess who didn't show up until late in the afternoon on the day before we were supposed to clear? Guess who DID spend all afternoon, evening and the next morning cleaning for our inspection at noon? Guess who passed with flying colors thanks to some elbow grease and team work? We were FINALLY on our way, thrilled to be done with JBLM and sad to be leaving the Pacific Northwest and my brother's family behind us.

We stopped in Eugene, OR for a couple days so that Mike's grandma could meet Hazel before we moved across the country. It was about a five hour drive so it was a good test run of how the longer days would go with Hazel and the pets.  We went to the Farmer's Market (which is huge and amazingly awesome!) ate some Voodoo Doughnuts, watched football and just hung out with family.







The first day we made it from Eugene to the UT/ID border.


Somewhere in Utah...

My dog is a freak...


It was a beautiful time of  year to drive across America.





Each day got progressively worse for my poor baby. She was so tired of being in the car so we were so glad when  stopped off for a week in Missouri to see my parents and to stretch our legs for more than a few hours at a time. While we were there my dad showed Mike how to shoot a bow, took him fishing and turkey hunting. I was beginning to wonder what happened to my city boy!

It was in Missouri that we saw Hazel smile on purpose for the first time. <3







Zero was so happy to have freedom!

From Missouri we went to Tennessee, to my sister's house, where Hazel got to meet more cousins!

I wonder how many of my readers remember when I flew to my sister's last October to help her after the birth of my niece, Charlotte? Well guess who's already one!


My oldest niece, Gabrielle, is the same age I was when she was born.






From Tennessee we drove to Alabama where we started a new chapter in our lives, which had a very rocky start unfortunately. When Mike got orders to Fort Rucker we decided that we wanted to live on post, especially since the waiting list was so short. About a month before Mike's report date we got an e-mail saying that we had been pre-assigned a house and it would be waiting for us when we arrived. As you can imagine, we were relieved! We would be able to move in right away and would have a yard for our dogs. 

On the day that we were to sign for the house I stayed at the hotel with the fur-kids and Hazel while Mike went with the housing lady to look at the house and sign for it. Later that evening Mike took me to the house so we could look at it together. The first thing I noticed when he opened the door was a strange smell but I just chalked it up to being shut up for weeks. Surely the smell would go away once we aired out the house, right?  The house was supposed to be renovated but the only updates I saw were silver doorknobs and new linoleum floors. The counter tops in the kitchen were blue, the appliances were old, the rooms were insanely small (our furniture wouldn't even fit in the master bedroom) the bathrooms were floor to ceiling powder blue tiles, the laundry room was outside and not air conditioned (in 110 degree summers? No thanks...)  and that smell that my nose caught as soon as I walked in? Pet urine. I couldn't believe that after almost nine years of serving his country it was all he qualified for here.
 
Mike and I love a good challenge so we decided to make the best out of the situation. I covered the ugly blue counter tops in contact paper and we bought a steam cleaner for the carpets. Unfortunately the steam cleaning made the smell even worse and we decided to complain to the housing office when they opened back up on Monday. Throughout the weekend we discovered several other issues with the house. Years of humidity had caused the windows to become foggy between the double panes--so foggy we couldn't even see through them to see the beautiful blue skies and sunshine. The toilet in the second bathroom broke after the first time we used it--it was held together with electrical tape. The ice machine in the freezer didn't work. The master bathroom was so small that I had to squish my legs together while on the toilet if I wanted to get to the toilet paper. The tiles in the bathroom were absolutely filthy. And the smell? It was absolutely disgusting. I sprayed with vinegar and essential oils, I steamed cleaned, I kept the windows open despite the extreme heat and humidity. We hadn't had our household goods delivered yet and I wasn't about to lay Hazel on the floor, even with a blanket. It was hell. 

On Monday, maintenance came by to measure for new floors and told me it would be at least three weeks before they could replace them. Mike came home, I handed him a screaming baby and I just started to cry. The stress of the move, the disappointment in the house and living in filthy, smelly surroundings had finally gotten to me. We'd lived in old housing before, that wasn't the problem. The problem was the filth, especially now that we have a baby. After I calmed down Mike went up to the housing office and told them how unacceptable the house was, how it just kept getting worse and worse the longer we were in it. He explained that the house should have never been shown, let alone lived in, in the state that it was in and requested a new house. We were offered another house in the same neighborhood but I didn't even want to look at it--I was afraid it would be just as bad or worse. They told us that because we only had one child we didn't qualify for new housing so they gave us the option of breaking our lease and moving off post, which we took gladly. The only problem was that we had two days to find a new place and get out of the old one so I stayed up late trying to find places to look at online. Thank GOD that Mike's unit was understanding throughout all of this and gave him the time off work to get it all situated. 

We ended up finding a nice town home,  about five minutes outside the gate, with a huge back yard for the girls and in a community of primarily military families. It's got a small community center with a workout room, tennis courts and a pool. The pool will get a lot of use next summer by Hazel and I, I'm sure! We've spent the past two weeks  trying to get unpacked and for the most part we are settled. I had Hazel's cloth diapers unpacked that first night! :) We've already had visitors too--my mom and dad and Mike's brother and his girlfriend. The house is finally starting to feel like home! Now if only Alabama would start to feel like home, too. Can you say culture shock? Seriously. The closest Costco is 75 miles away and Target is 25 miles! Thank God for Amazon Prime! I hope we're not miserable here for the next two years...

Oct 31, 2012

Oct 11, 2012

Two Months Old

We FINALLY made it to Fort Rucker. 3,200 miles + four pets + a five week old = pure hell. But more on that later. Hazel is two months old! Where has the time gone? She is growing way too fast. 

 For the most part she is a very happy baby. She only cries when she's hungry or if she's overly tired (or if she's stuck in her car seat for five days straight--so glad that's over with!) She loves, LOVES to bounce--I guess maybe that has to do with all the time I spent on the birthing ball toward the end of my pregnancy? :) My legs will be back in shape in no time if she keeps this up but I don't mind.

Breastfeeding is still going amazingly well and she loves the ring sling and Ergo. I'm kicking myself for not bringing the mei tai with me on the move but we'll get to try that out soon enough. I can't say enough good things about babywearing--I love it! It saved my butt when the cleaning lady blew us off and Mike and I ended up having to clean our old house before clearing Fort Lewis.
Babywearing at the Farmer's Market in Eugene, OR

Unfortunately she's spent the majority of this last month in disposable diapers due to the cross-country move but right before we packed them all up she was just starting to fit in the one size diapers. Thank goodness we haven't had any rashes or other issues but we can't wait to get her in cloth again!
Helping mommy stuff diapers


She really looks at us now when we talk to her and in the last week she's started to coo at us. Sweetest sound ever! She is happiest in the mornings right after waking up and we'll just sit there and talk to each other for quite awhile.She will follow me around the room with her eyes now. Hazel still prefers me to anyone else and it's pretty funny how quickly she can turn off her fussing when Mike passes her to me--she's giving him a complex! Not really..

Big Smiles!
Celebrating Cousin Charlotte's First Birthday
We're still bedsharing--I couldn't imagine sleeping any other way. I bought the Arm's Reach Co-sleeper when I was pregnant and had every intention to use it but even that isn't close enough to me. This is how we sleep most nights.

But how can I sleep when I have someone this cute next to me?

My sister gave us Charlotte's playmat last weekend and Hazel really seems to enjoy it. She doesn't reach for any of the toys yet but she spends about 20 minutes at a time there, happily looking at everything and swatting things with her little legs and arms.


I have no idea how much she weighs but hopefully we'll be taking her to her 2 month appointment in the next couple weeks once we get settled and find a pediatrician. She's growing like a weed though! She's going to be out of her 0-3 month clothes in no time!
Hazel and the quilt my mom made her
Happy October!

We really are loving every minute of being parents, even when I was up with her from 0300-0500 this morning! :) She truly is a dream come true.

Oct 8, 2012

Update

I know I have been terrible about blogging from the road. I have a little girl who has absolutely hated her car seat more and more each day we have traveled. We are finally one day away from our final destination and have a six hour drive ahead of us tomorrow. We will be in a hotel for a week unless we can sign for our house sooner, which I'm really praying for. I mean, who wants to stay in a hotel for a week with two huge dogs, two cats and a two month old? Aaah, I can't believe Hazel will be two months old on Wednesday. Where is the time going?  I will try to blog about our cross country drive and upload some pictures whenever I can get my laptop hooked to WiFi again. I hope some of you can help pass along my new URL to other mutual blogging friends. Cheers!

Miracle Babies

I can only hope and pray that we're this lucky!


 

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Sep 22, 2012

Road Trip

After a nightmare of a week clearing Ft. Lewis and housing, dealing with packers and movers and a cleaning lady who didn't show, we are finally on our way. We drove about four hours south to Eugene, OR so that Hazel could meet her great grandparents before we head east.
We've just been relaxing and taking it easy, which is much needed after this week. We are heading to the Eugene Farmer's Market today, which
 I love! Not only is it full of awesome produce and products, it is full of hippies. Like braless, barefoot hippies. I'm not  that hardcore but I half-jokingly told Mike, "I get to be one with my people!" haha
Hazel has been awesome this week, even when I was bumping her around all day in the Ergo when we were cleaning our house for the move out inspection. We have been using disposables since Sunday and neither of us are fans, we prefer cloth much better and it looks way cuter!
I will try to post from the road as I can but it's a PITA from my phone. I want to try to keep you updated as well as record our 3,200 mile trip with a six week old, two 75 pound dogs and two cats. What an adventure!

Sep 17, 2012

Life After Infertility

Before I ever got pregnant I would always see those struggling with secondary IF and think, "What are they complaining about? They've got one baby! Isn't that enough? I would KILL to have just one!" but over the past couple weeks I've seen it from both sides and have had to remind myself to be sensitive to those still struggling while also being humbled and realized that secondary infertility still hurts.

The first experience was in the infertility group I started for the military wives in my area. I started it when I was in a really dark place and felt like the only military wife in existence who wasn't a mom. I quickly realized that I wasn't and within a couple weeks there were over 20 women in the group. Over the past year the group has been a great sense of support and an outlet to vent my frustrations. We met up for lunch several times and it was so refreshing to be with women who understood what I was going through. Since that first meeting, several of us have moved on to pregnancy and motherhood but there are still many women who are struggling. When I became pregnant I kind of  unintentionally abandoned the group because I didn't know how anyone would receive advice coming from someone who had moved on and was now pregnant. I know that when I was going through treatments it was always hard to be around or hear from pregnant women, whether they struggled or not. I guess I was just trying to be sensitive, afraid of hurting anyone. When so many of us moved on, the group kind of fizzled and died so last week I attempted to rectify that, still walking on eggshells because I didn't want to upset anyone with my profile picture of my new little family. It's hard, being on the other side. Just because I know what they're feeling and I sometimes feel guilty that I've found success and they haven't. But then I think about how long it's taken us to get to this point and it reminds me that I fought hard to get here and Mike and I deserve all the happiness that Hazel has brought into our lives. I've just been on the 'infertile and childless' side for so long that I'm still learning how to live life on the other side.

Despite having a beautiful baby in my arms, yesterday's experience took me right back to the 'infertile and childless' days. We were at a going away BBQ for Mike and were asked the question, "Are you going to have more kids?" Well hell, this was almost as tough to answer as the, "Do you have kids?" question when we were going through treatments!  I explained that it took us almost four years to get Hazel and that she was an IVF baby, which was received with questions like, "What's IVF?" "Was it expensive?" "Does it make you more fertile?" That led to a discussion between the wives on how it only took them two weeks and two months to get pregnant and how extremely fertile they are. Well isn't that nice? Mike was nice and replied with a smile, "Well we're not that lucky..." while I ignored them and was starting down at Hazel in her ring sling, thanking God that I did not have to endure that conversation with empty arms. I had anxiety the entire time other people were holding Hazel and I couldn't wait to get home.

When one of the guys asked us how it was going with the baby he said, "It sucks, doesn't it?" I told him no. He said, "Come on, it sucks. Don't lie." Seriously dude? Guess it's easy to take it all for granted when your wife can get knocked up on the first try. Apparently the bitterness never leaves. Once an infertile, always an infertile.


And cause this post is a major downer--here's some new pictures of Hazel to lighten the mood.

Look at that chub! She weighed 12 pounds at my last midwife appointment!